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Allie’s Farewell Boobies Party


This past weekend, our small group of sister-friends (with kids in tow) bid farewell to Allie’s boobs!  We let the kids run the house while; Heather, Mari and I did a small ceremony for Allie.  The ceremony entailed us reading a few words we wrote for Allie, followed by us taking pictures of her with her boobies’ cupcakes. We then presented her with a picture painted by a talented 14-year old artist from Pasadena, who sold us this beautiful print of Rome with the Vatican in the center of it all.  Allie’s mom, Crystal, was there to watch all of the festivities unfold.  We laughed, we cried, and we shared our fears about the double mastectomy happening in less than 2 weeks!

Allie found out of her Breast Cancer diagnosis the day after Labor Day weekend, it’s been only a little over two months!  This whole whirlwind has brought our small group of friends closer than we have ever been.  So, as we prepare to support Allie through yet another difficult phase of her treatment, we stand closer than ever, as she gets ready to face the biggest surgery of her life.

Before I arrived to the party, I was in such a somber mood. I wanted to pretend that we weren’t going through this super rough patch, and that she was in good health.  I struggled all day to find words to describe my sadness.  My husband was so supportive, and kept trying to get me to see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I couldn’t.  I arrived to Allie’s house and quickly helped the girls decorate so we can begin the party.  And there were the words…this is real!  I’m so scared for Allie.  The thought of her waking up without her breasts, kept tearing me apart!  I wondered if the recovery during the holidays would be easier or harder for her.  I guess we will find out in a few weeks, but it’s hard to think that such a happy go-lucky, and strong person like Allie, could be blue or in such pain that she will not enjoy her favorite holiday of the year.

I benefits of her having her breast removed sunk in! The cancer cells will be removed from her body, and she will start a recovery process that we all know, will undoubtedly be a successful one. After we aired out all of our fears and concerns, there was a moment, when the cloud of fear had dissipated and no longer billowed over all of us.  We faced the reality that this is the fight of Allie’s life, but we had faced it together and weren't afraid anymore. We went to find comfort in each other and we found indefinable strength that I have never felt before.

After our kids exchange gifts (early this year because of Allie’s surgery), we all enjoyed our potluck dinner that was so tasty, it was almost as if I enjoyed everything more than usual, for that time while we ate and chatted, we were all 100% present, and supporting our dear friend.  As we toasted Allie, we made a pact that when she reaches her third disease-free year after the upcoming surgery, that all four of us girls will go to Rome to celebrate.  The reason why we decided on the 3rd year of recovery is because patients with a triple-negative diagnosis (breast cancers that are estrogen receptor-negative, progesterone receptor-negative, and HER2-negative) have a higher chance of having the cancer come back (at times, in other forms) within 3 years of treatment.  We are determined to help Allie fight hard and stay strong, so that we reach her third decease-free year.   And so we pray and wait for miracles to happen.  Here we go…

-Fabiola

1 comment:

  1. Fabiola - I have just come across this post - and your blog - from a google search and am so glad. You see, in 2012 my bestie was diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma and similar to Allie, faced a double mastectomy. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. #EverythingHappensForAReason

    I also documented the journey with my bestie finding it cathartic. While there were many supports available for the patient, I found fewer available for the support team and that became my raison d'etre. If you're interested, you can find my blog at www.mybestiesboobies.com

    While I'll be reading your archived posts more thoroughly when I can dedicate some uninterrupted time to it, I will be holding you & Allie in my thoughts. xo

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